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From Summer Lovin’ to Summertime Sadness, every summer romance has its’ ups and downs. Some relationships will blossom and grow, while others will wither and die. But what is the secret to the perfect summer romance? Find out with Trident Media’s Top 10 tips!
#1 Ask yourself, do you really want a summer romance?
Don’t put yourself in a position you really don’t want to be in, mainly as there is a difference between wanting to be with someone and liking the idea of being with someone – one is deeper than the other. This could result in a dead end, which isn’t good for both parties.
For example, Person A likes Person B but Person B is not on the same wavelength as Person A, as they only like the idea of being with them and don’t want to commit to anything. This will leave Person A feeling confused and led on. The bottom line is to be considerate of the other person.
#2 Try to get to know the person as much as you can
A key to a healthy romance is to know your counterpart well. Without knowing anything about your current/potential partner, the interest in the conservations will not be up to scratch. You will struggle to keep your conversations going and you and your partner will suddenly lose interest in each other.
#3 Do NOT rely solely on social media
There is a little saying that states “If something seems too good to be true, it probably is”. The worst thing about an online connection with someone is that you never really get to know them truly. Just look at the MTV show Catfish; many people online are not who they claim to be and that should be a factor to be careful of if you are using social media for relationship purposes.
Do NOT give your full trust to Tinder, as 42% of users aren’t actually single, this is pure risky business. If you watch the video below, this is a snippet of Catfish and what could happen if you are not careful on social media sites.
#4 Stay vigilant
If you notice something is off or unusual, keep an eye on it. For example, if your partner’s mannerism, tone of voice or tone of text message suddenly changes, stay aware. Your partner may be acting strangely in the sense that they may act uneasy with for no apparent reason. The sad thing is that human perception is biased and actions can be interpreted in thousands of ways. On that note, stay vigilant but at the same time, don’t jump to conclusions.
#5 Be confident
A way of showing your inner strengths is to remain confident, if you show confidence in yourself, there will be an increase of attraction. But be careful, being confident and being arrogant are two different mannerisms. Your partner may not like you being arrogant as it really pushes a realistic boundary. Confidence shows you are not afraid to show who you really are, but arrogance may make your partner believe that you think you’re better than them.
#6 Do your research
If you and your partner have a mutual friend, and you feel you that your friendship is strong enough, ask them for background information on your partner. Most importantly, don’t ask questions that you don’t want the answer to. This is also known as the “CRB Check”. I think this element is important as I’ve been a witness to a false self-clarification; a friend of mine met someone and took them out for food – one week later they found out the person was known for sleeping around and carrying multiple relationships at once. The moral of the story, ALWAYS get a second voice.
#7 Be genuine
Out of everything, most importantly BE YOURSELF! Your true personality is the real reason for a person to like you, just ask yourself, why would you want a person to like you for something you’re not? It just defeats the purpose. In regards to this, the bottom line is to be honest with yourself and your partner as being genuine and being trustworthy have a big link; Why should your partner trust you if you can’t be real with them?
#8 Keep things at a comfortable pace
Do NOT rush into anything, as the majority of rushed relationships/romances fail. Keep at a pace that both you and your partner are accustomed to, as it will give you both time to grow and for your romance to strengthen throughout the summer and beyond. Everything in life takes time to grow to its full potential, so if you want it to work out for you long-term, give things time to grow and settle and the positive results will show.
You have the whole summer to explore; go on day trips and different outings. It will keep the summer romance fresh and exciting. Instead of lazing about watching Netflix all day, do something productive like, sightseeing, sporting activities or even a relaxed stroll around your local area. This summer is bound to be hot (let’s hope), so make the most of the weather whilst it’s here.
#10 Look ahead
Don’t just think about the present, think about the future as well. Think realistically whether your summer romance will be merely a fling, or whether your summer romance will develop further. When deciding where you think you’re at in terms of progression, ask yourself the following questions:
- Will your romance be long term?
- Are you happy with your partner?
- Do you feel that you trust your partner?
- From the scale of 1-10, how strong do you think your romance is?
- Do they push you to be at your best?
We hope our top 10 tips will help you out this summer. Just remember to make sure you are aware of who you are talking to at all times as you don’t want to be calling Nev and Max, remain confident in yourself to make sure your romance blossoms to its full potential and most importantly… have a good summer!
Have you got any other advice for a summer romance? Let us know in the comments below or on Twitter @TridentMediaUK!