Sex and the Univercity: commitment

Image: Unsplash – Greg Rakozy 

[Aimone Sharif | Sports Manager]

With Valentine’s Day almost out of the way, that temporary rise in the feeling of desperation is finally stabling itself once more. We all know that default statement used in an effort to mask vulnerability, it goes along the lines of “hating” Valentine’s because it is “too mainstream”.

Most of you can probably relate to the feeling of going to the town centre when the Card Factory has an overflowing amount of red heart-shaped balloons and disgustingly cute teddies and flowers on display. Your stomach can’t help but churn half from nausea but also from secret envy.

Do you know of a couple that has been together for longer than you can remember? Heck I can name a few off the top of my head! When somebody tells you they have been with their other half for five years, one of two thoughts pop into your mind: that must be so lame! Or when will I ever have that?! Because deep down you are looking for that “lobster” of yours that Phoebe Buffay describes so well.

Pardon the over generalisation here but there are two types of people in the world, the committed one and the consecutive one night stander. Now don’t get me wrong I do not judge the latter, heck maybe I admire the non-existing emotional attachment. But if what you wanted was a relationship with a nice, sweet person – why shout from the rooftops that they just used you for sex? It takes two to tango… and you’re not doing yourself any favours by announcing that you can dance.  

Starting from early childhood, Disney entices you to think and dare may I say, believe that even if you start in the stickiest situation, your Prince Charming will be there to save you. A perfect example is Cinderella. What is important in that storyline is not her ability to fend for herself (let’s not go on a tangent) but the fact that there is indeed a Prince Charming to turn to. Modern translation: a man who would do anything for you is just around the corner. Not to be pessimistic but in case you hadn’t figured it out yet, Disney isn’t reality.

The imagery of perfect romance surrounds us from our very first steps, yet seems impossible to find in the society that we live in. So that takes us back to wondering how those couples ever made it to three, four, or five years together. How is that even possible? There is a simple word that answers all these questions: commitment.  

Are you really ready to commit to the person that you are with? Are you ready to make sacrifices and compromises, but most importantly are you ready for the ride of your life? Relationships weren’t made overnight, it would be too easy if they were and undoubtedly taken for granted! The couples that you see together for years have invested in each other, whilst undoubtedly having their fair share of tests and trials. But if you look at their faces while they’re together or holding hands you just know they wouldn’t change anything at all.

So if you are a hopeless romantic that can’t wait for someone to sweep you off your feet, just wait for it, keep those feet comfortably planted. Then when it happens don’t flee at the first problem you face; stand strong and face it together. And you know what? Before you realise it you might be part of that cheesy couple that people look at with nausea and secret envy.    

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Sex and the Univercity: commitment